Mother 😑

So I’ve lost 32 pounds since November and 223 pounds since having weight loss surgery in 1997. Does this stop my mother from talking down to me? NOPE!

After shopping, I was very excited to wear clothes that fit. I mean come on, I’m a size large now!!! I haven’t worn a size large since junior high school!!! I am thrilled and still can’t believe I have come so far. I look in the mirror and am elated that this is me!

So when I show my mother how my size large looks, you know what she says? “Oh that’s nice honey. But you need longer sleeves to cover up those fat arms.” What??? My response (I tried not to go off on her), “Well Mom, I’ve lost over 200 pounds. I’m going to have excess skin. If someone doesn’t like it, too bad.” She doesn’t agree. She says, “I don’t even wear short sleeves. You need to get 3/4 sleeves like I do.” What the hell???

So I’m frustrated at her and am avoiding her. My friend and I had an awesome time at the comedy show last night. I went to see Chinedu Ogu at the Joke Joint. I even got to meet him which made my day!

Roxxy Umm, I don’t remember this guys name but he was pretty funny and no, he’s not a redneck although he does kind of look like one.

This is Chinedu!

I have decided that I really am going to be more social (when money allows) because I look better and feel better. I don’t feel like a whale next to my friends and I’m not afraid to meet people. It seems this has helped my anxiety too which is great!

When my friend and I walked in the club and sat down, a guy walks up to me and says HEY! I look up and it’s a guy I met at my B’s birthday dinner back in February. He introduced me to his wife and we chatted. He got my phone number and I seriously think his wife wasn’t too happy about that (she kind of gave that half smile and looked at me funny for coming over to talk to him). So my words to her and every other wife/girlfriend of men I know is this. “I do not want your man, please trust me on this. You are always welcome to hang out with me as well. I have no interest in being a side piece or a marriage breaker. If your man even once tries to hit on me, you will probably never see me again. I hope we can be friends.” Why am I such a threat??? Okay yes, I am starting to look better since I have lost weight, I have perfect teeth now (thanks to the best dentist ever and dentures), blue eyes and blondish red hair. But I’m not a threat!!!!

So we took a selfie and sent it to B. B answers, “When was this?” So that’s when I went over to this man so we could answer. They ended up texting on my phone for a bit and now we are all supposed to hang out soon. Let’s pray his wife comes!

Today I have to go get my shots and take grandma (a woman I drive occasionally that is the grandma of one of my good friends and was my neighbor for 15 years so I call her grandma) to get her license renewed. I’m also going to send keto packages to my 2 best friends. I just want them to have a few treats so they can see how why this has been so easy for me! I am sending them the following. A white chocolate dipping cup, a bag of protein chips, a chocolate peanut butter keto bar, and a cheese crisp. I hope they like them as much as I do!

After 4 and a half hours of sleep, I’ve got to try to get stuff done today. I’m also trying to avoid my mother. Even my son is avoiding her but that’s because he’s just a tween and doesn’t want to deal. Lol

Have a great Monday!

Stayed up late

Wow. I didn’t mean to stay up until 2am! It was an interesting day. What did I do? Umm, oh yeah!

I woke up early as I told you yesterday. I finally got up at 9am and got ready to leave the house. I went to the dreaded mall. I went to Sears and ended up spending way too much money. I got 5 shirts, 3 pairs of pants (one of which I am returning as I don’t think I would put a size medium with what I was buying), 2 bras, and 2 shapewear things as well as another bathing suit bottom. I then walked to the other side of the mall and got some new earrings from Claire’s. They had a sale of buy 3/get 3 free so I came home with 5 pairs of earrings and a box of backings (because I keep losing those itty bitty things). I went to The Great American Cookie and got my son some of his favorite sugar cookies since I was there too.

Shopping at Sears took me 2 1/2 hours! I definitely got my 10,000 steps in. I was very disappointed in Sears because they had like 4 employees in the entire store and 3 of those were doing checkouts in the middle of the entire store. I had no help finding anything, had to go back and forth with different sizes to the dressing room (which I had to find), and nobody around to ask any questions to! It was very disappointing. I was hoping for bra help since I haven’t bought a bra in forever. Oh well. I got it figured out, it just took me a while.

I rested when I got home, I was very tired. Ate some taco meat with cheese, and then took off to my friends son’s baseball game. I walked over there. It was hot. I put on my new size large clothes as well as the shapewear to go to the game. My friend said it looked really good too. Size large here!!!

I shared some peanuts and water with them since I forgot to bring anything with me and I was starving. I am so very grateful that they were so sweet to share! My friends team ended up winning their championship game 14-4. I am so proud of her son!

I walked home and took off the clothes and just about collapsed into my bed. If it hadn’t been 7pm, I would have gone to bed right then. I decided to turn on Netflix.

The Clapper – I was SO happy to see Tracy Morgan!!! It was a very cute movie with a bunch of stars and comedians. It’s funny, sad, romantic, and sweet. I always like comedies and this one was different so I thought it was really good. Did I mention this is one of Tracy Morgan’s first movies since his car accident (Fist Fight was the first)?

My Perfect Romance – Oh my! Boss/employee love? I guess it happens. It’s about a CEO and a programmer that end up working together and falling in love. I’m not usually one for sappy movies. I watched this because Jodie Sweeten is in it. A small part but since I watched her grow up on Full House (Stephanie), heard about her drug use and how she has overcome it, and now in the new Fuller House series plus movies, I really like her.

Then I finally went to bed at 2am. I haven’t gotten out of bed yet this morning. No plans today really so I guess I don’t have to yet! I do need to go grocery shopping and cook but that’s it.

I hope everyone has a nice Sunday!

Saturday morning

I was woken up at 6am this morning after not going to sleep until 11. I wanted to sleep in. My mother seems to have other plans though because she has the royal wedding playing at top volume downstairs. I am happy for Harry, I don’t have to watch the wedding though. πŸ™„

I am not working this weekend. I just don’t feel like it. I worked hard this week so I am just going to relax. I lost 2.6 more pounds this week! I’m at 182.8. This keto diet is awesome! Why wasn’t I doing this when I was young???

I text my cousin last night because I saw his wife had posted on Snapchat that they were in Brazil. He didn’t look too excited walking around so I had to ask him. His response was that he was going on an hours sleep. Well yeah, that makes sense! The reason I mention this is because HE’S COMING TO VISIT!!!! I am so excited! He will be here the first weekend in June. His Dad lives here (my uncle) and my uncle has been sick lately so my cousin is coming. I get to reap the rewards though and see him too. Plus he wants to take me to see the Astros play the Red Sox while he’s here. Woo hoo! So I am planning on not dieting at least one day while he’s here.

You may remember my cousin from this post https://juliehcares.com/2017/11/16/sorry-😐/ because he’s the one I sold the condo with. So there’s a refresher for my friends that have been listening to me complain for months and new to others that I am happy to have with me!

I drove Styled and she got her hair done and then we went to the grocery store. She had me run all over the store to get her stuff while she went to the pharmacy. Oops, hang on. Hard to type with a cat pushing on your hands. He just nibbled on me so I need to kick him out of my room.

Anyway, where was I? So I got Styled home at noon and had to rush off to get Ms. Sick. I started getting texts from my friends asking about Santa Fe and emails from the school about lockdowns on my way to pick her up. I wanted to go pick up my son. When I picked this woman up, she had decided that not only would I take her to get her hair done, I would take her to lunch and grocery shopping as well. Not cool. I didn’t get her back home until 5:15!!! I really hope she’s better and can drive herself soon. That really upset me.

I was just about to pull up to my house after that when I got a call asking if I wanted to go to dinner. This is the other new client, Ms. Forgets, daughter. I hadn’t met her yet so I said sure. She told me to meet her at a Mexican restaurant not too far away and I happily went.

She had quesadillas and I had fajitas combination plate. I ordered my food with just the meat and a side of cheese, no beans, no rice, and no tortillas. I also had a margarita that didn’t taste great so I only had half. Ended up only 4 carbs! I did really well sticking to my plan! So that was my day.

I am not working today. I worked hard this week and want a day off so I am taking one. I wanted to go to the beach again this weekend but changed my mind when I saw all the road closures around town. Maybe I will just go to the park and walk the 3 mile trail instead. Who knows! Have a great weekend!!!

Such a horrible act

I’m still in shock over the 17 year old here in Santa Fe. It’s too close to home. My biological brother and his family were just living there a year ago so I’ve been there many times. It’s only 40 minutes from my house to his old place which was 2 miles from the high school there.

A small town of 13,000 people. A 17 year old that decided to steal his fathers weapons and use them against innocent children. What is going on with our youth???

I spoke with my son when we both got home today. He told me that he’s not stupid and knows what to do in case of a shooter. He said you don’t run through the school, you stop and hide the first place you find. What kills me is that the school doesn’t even have lockers and the classrooms walls are all glass so where is a kid supposed to hide?

I am not for gun control. If you stop following me for that, I understand. Gun control is not going to help anything. If somebody really wants a firearm, they will get it. There needs to be more background on buying weapons. I can walk into an Academy store right now and walk out with a rifle. Yes, rifles are harder to use since they need to be reloaded but, they can be used to shoot up a school too.

I’m off to bed, I just wanted y’all to know my feelings on this horrible thing that happened. I hope you sleep well (if you’re in America) and have a great day if you’re just waking up!

Social

I am trying to be more social.

Thanks to my son, I now have Snapchat.

Thanks to a friend on here, I have WeChat.

Thanks to my good friend in Kenya, I got WhatsApp a number of years ago.

I am on Instagram as well and post daily. I’m actually trying to put more videos on there too. I did today!

I refuse to go back to Facebook just because it’s silly. I use it for the marketplace but that’s it.

What’s my name on all these? I bet you can guess! It’s the same as on here, juliehcares. On Snapchat, it shows up at Julieh Cares (weird but whatever).

If you have any questions or need to get a hold of me, or just want to follow me, please reach out on any of these!

I got back to it!

I sent a friend a text last night and realized how funny it probably sounded to anyone that doesn’t know me (like his fiancΓ©). I said, “Hey! I finally got off my butt today!” I had not exercised since May 5th! What’s that, 2 weeks??? I have been so tired and worn out but I broke through that last night. FINALLY-FREAKING-LY!

I got home from driving Ms. Sick at 5:30pm. I went upstairs, took off my shoes, and laid down. Not even 10 minutes after that, I had my headphones on and started listening to some great older songs that really get me moving like Pump Up The Volume and Pump Up The Jam. I decided right then to go out walking. So I did. It was 97 degrees outside (that’s 36C to the rest of the world). I walked for 33 minutes. By the time I got home, I seriously thought I was going to pass out. Why I didn’t just go to the gym and use the treadmill, I don’t know. I just wanted to be outside.

All I could think was how the pool would feel really good right about then so guess what I did? YEP, I came home, changed my clothes, and went to the pool. I did another 30 minutes of laps and it felt so good after that walking.

So I came back home after chatting with a few neighbors (in a dripping wet swimsuit) and took a shower.

After I was done and all clean, I wanted a snack. I went downstairs and got 3 of my homemade keto peanut butter cookies and a container of sugar free white chocolate dipping sauce and ate it all. I even licked the dipping container! It was so good, I can’t believe it’s on my plan!

And I played with my dog πŸ•

I have the cutest little girl! My son did not go to bed until after 10pm because he was doing schoolwork and showering. I was not happy about it either! Crazy child.

Today I am taking Styled to get her hair dyed and then this afternoon taking Ms. Sick to get her hair done again. I took her to her doctor yesterday and he said she could eat again so she took me to this health food place that has a restaurant. I got a grass fed burger with Monterey Jack cheese on it with pickles. It was really good!!!

Then she had me take her to this other store with all healthy options and I found the keto version of Andes Mints! 2 carbs for chocolate mint? Yes please!

This place also had jerky but not beef jerky. Nope, VENISON jerky! I absolutely love venison (sorry deer). So I bought one of those too.

I will have this today. I am really looking forward to it!

Anywho, that’s all that’s going on here! I pray I get off my butt again today and keep moving. I was so happy last night so I just need to keep remembering that!

Lazy

Yesterday I got up, drove for Lyft, went to my appointment, then decided to come home and do absolutely NOTHING the rest of the day. It was so nice!

I ended up binge watching Safe on Netflix which is weird and creepy and kept me interested for all 8 episodes! Michael Hall with an English accent, a missing teenager, a dead teenager, and a bunch of liars? Yes, it is very interesting!

I ate well and stayed in my macros. I thought about exercising and decided to wait and then waited too long. I was asleep by 11pm and woke up on my own at 5:45 this morning.

I have Ms. Forgets this morning and Ms. Sick this afternoon again. Therefore I will not have time to work for Lyft. I plan on driving this weekend. Mr. 95 year old cancelled on me again last night. He said he was in a lot of pain. I hate hearing that and told him to please feel better, not for me, but to be better. He said I was sweet and told me he will call me next week. Not sure if he actually heard what I said but that’s okay.

My mom was asleep in bed by 7pm last night. My son was asleep by 10. What worries me is that my mom is still in bed this morning. Usually if she’s asleep that early, she’s awake by 4am running around the house and turning up the tv so loud that we wake up too. I will check on her before I go to work. She has to work today too. She was working in the garage yesterday so maybe she just wore herself out.

It was 96 degrees yesterday and is supposed to be 99 today. Yes, summer has arrived in Houston. I hate it. I knew it would be a hot summer after it snowed twice here this winter. Gives me another excuse not to drive! If it’s too hot for me, can you imagine the poor dogs having to go for walks on the hot concrete? Please take care of your fur babies!

Short but sweet today. I hope it’s a good Thursday for all!