Good first day of no mom

I worked 4 hours with Ms. Sick. She wants me again Friday afternoon. I thought she would be driving by now but I guess not! I came home and took the dog on a long walk. I then went to pick up my son since he said it was raining. It literally sprinkled 4 drops on the car on the way to get him. Then, for some odd reason, I decided to move furniture. I switched out my mom’s dresser and mine. She had mine and I had hers because my television does not fit on top of my dresser. I’m tired of all the furniture in my room and wanted to get rid of stuff so I can walk around! I had a tiny space to walk around all the furniture in here. It’s SO much better now! My son helped a little bit and was complaining the whole time. I bet every parent reading this rolled their eyes too. Teenagers! Geez!

I cleaned out my mom’s drawers onto her bed. I took each drawer into my room and put it on my bed after emptying it. Once it was cleaned out, I moved it out of the way in her room. I walked back into my room. I cleaned out all of my drawers and started moving her dresser (with drawers still in it) pushing it into her room and then put her tv on top of it and sorted her clothes into the drawers. I then put my dresser on its side and pushed it into my room. I had to lift it back up, put the drawers back in it, and put it against a wall for the next step.

Now on to the second thing I was getting rid of. I had a bookshelf in my room. A couple of weeks ago, I moved my books into my closet and put what was on the closet shelves onto the bookcase. I now took all of that and put it on my bed and got the bookshelf out of my room by pushing and pulling and leaning it to get out the door (it’s taller than my doorway). I moved it into my sons room so he has 2 bookshelves now. I came back in my room, moved my dresser into the corner where my bookshelf was, and put all of my clothes away. WHEW!

With all of the stuff on my bed, I had to decide where to put it all. For now, I have stacked it on top of my dresser. My tv is on the floor until I can get someone to come put it on my wall. I need to get the thing to put the tv on the wall, the wall covers so the cords are hidden inside the wall, and I also need to buy a shelf for my Apple TV and my Blu-ray player. The Godfather said he won’t be able to come until some point this summer. I guess it’s a good thing I don’t really watch my tv that often! I’d have to lean over the foot of my bed to watch it where it is on the floor right now! I hate feeling crowded in with stuff. This is so much better already! I’m not willing to part with my humongous bed frame (frame and tempur-pedic bed cost me $3000 5 years ago dammit) so I needed to get rid of other stuff.

Yes, I hurt my back just a little bit. Just a twinge really. I’ll take some Advil, rest, and I’ll be fine. I have my electrode treatment today and then Mr. 95 year old (unless he cancels on me again). I may get more stuff done in my room too. It’s so nice not worrying about wanting to go outside to smoke or having to hear her tv at top volume in my bedroom.

I hope y’all have a great day!

Happy day!

So y’all know from yesterday how truly upset I am with my mother. That’s why today is a good day. She’s leaving for a church trip this morning for 3 days!

I can relax, I don’t have to stress over if she’s going to mention anything rude to me, or complain about what I wear. I do have to take care of her cats while she’s gone but I can do that. We’ve owned cats my whole life so not like its new.

Last night, I mentioned how my son wants to go to college out of state and that I would move so we don’t pay out of state tuition. She said she will have to get a roommate because she doesn’t want to live alone. 🙄 She won’t move either. Then she says she may be dead by then too. Lordy. I told her it’s still 5 years away and who knows what will happen by then. She just said true.

Today I only have one person to drive and it’s the lady that upset me on Friday. I really hoped that she would be feeling better and wouldn’t need me but I guess she still does. I’m not driving for Lyft this week either. I want to enjoy my time alone in the house.

Maybe I will feel up to getting some exercise. The doctors office yesterday said I don’t look as tired and they contributed that to the 2 days of exercise I got last week. Umm, okay?

Y’all have a great day!

Mother 😡

So I’ve lost 32 pounds since November and 223 pounds since having weight loss surgery in 1997. Does this stop my mother from talking down to me? NOPE!

After shopping, I was very excited to wear clothes that fit. I mean come on, I’m a size large now!!! I haven’t worn a size large since junior high school!!! I am thrilled and still can’t believe I have come so far. I look in the mirror and am elated that this is me!

So when I show my mother how my size large looks, you know what she says? “Oh that’s nice honey. But you need longer sleeves to cover up those fat arms.” What??? My response (I tried not to go off on her), “Well Mom, I’ve lost over 200 pounds. I’m going to have excess skin. If someone doesn’t like it, too bad.” She doesn’t agree. She says, “I don’t even wear short sleeves. You need to get 3/4 sleeves like I do.” What the hell???

So I’m frustrated at her and am avoiding her. My friend and I had an awesome time at the comedy show last night. I went to see Chinedu Ogu at the Joke Joint. I even got to meet him which made my day!

Roxxy Umm, I don’t remember this guys name but he was pretty funny and no, he’s not a redneck although he does kind of look like one.

This is Chinedu!

I have decided that I really am going to be more social (when money allows) because I look better and feel better. I don’t feel like a whale next to my friends and I’m not afraid to meet people. It seems this has helped my anxiety too which is great!

When my friend and I walked in the club and sat down, a guy walks up to me and says HEY! I look up and it’s a guy I met at my B’s birthday dinner back in February. He introduced me to his wife and we chatted. He got my phone number and I seriously think his wife wasn’t too happy about that (she kind of gave that half smile and looked at me funny for coming over to talk to him). So my words to her and every other wife/girlfriend of men I know is this. “I do not want your man, please trust me on this. You are always welcome to hang out with me as well. I have no interest in being a side piece or a marriage breaker. If your man even once tries to hit on me, you will probably never see me again. I hope we can be friends.” Why am I such a threat??? Okay yes, I am starting to look better since I have lost weight, I have perfect teeth now (thanks to the best dentist ever and dentures), blue eyes and blondish red hair. But I’m not a threat!!!!

So we took a selfie and sent it to B. B answers, “When was this?” So that’s when I went over to this man so we could answer. They ended up texting on my phone for a bit and now we are all supposed to hang out soon. Let’s pray his wife comes!

Today I have to go get my shots and take grandma (a woman I drive occasionally that is the grandma of one of my good friends and was my neighbor for 15 years so I call her grandma) to get her license renewed. I’m also going to send keto packages to my 2 best friends. I just want them to have a few treats so they can see how why this has been so easy for me! I am sending them the following. A white chocolate dipping cup, a bag of protein chips, a chocolate peanut butter keto bar, and a cheese crisp. I hope they like them as much as I do!

After 4 and a half hours of sleep, I’ve got to try to get stuff done today. I’m also trying to avoid my mother. Even my son is avoiding her but that’s because he’s just a tween and doesn’t want to deal. Lol

Have a great Monday!

Stayed up late

Wow. I didn’t mean to stay up until 2am! It was an interesting day. What did I do? Umm, oh yeah!

I woke up early as I told you yesterday. I finally got up at 9am and got ready to leave the house. I went to the dreaded mall. I went to Sears and ended up spending way too much money. I got 5 shirts, 3 pairs of pants (one of which I am returning as I don’t think I would put a size medium with what I was buying), 2 bras, and 2 shapewear things as well as another bathing suit bottom. I then walked to the other side of the mall and got some new earrings from Claire’s. They had a sale of buy 3/get 3 free so I came home with 5 pairs of earrings and a box of backings (because I keep losing those itty bitty things). I went to The Great American Cookie and got my son some of his favorite sugar cookies since I was there too.

Shopping at Sears took me 2 1/2 hours! I definitely got my 10,000 steps in. I was very disappointed in Sears because they had like 4 employees in the entire store and 3 of those were doing checkouts in the middle of the entire store. I had no help finding anything, had to go back and forth with different sizes to the dressing room (which I had to find), and nobody around to ask any questions to! It was very disappointing. I was hoping for bra help since I haven’t bought a bra in forever. Oh well. I got it figured out, it just took me a while.

I rested when I got home, I was very tired. Ate some taco meat with cheese, and then took off to my friends son’s baseball game. I walked over there. It was hot. I put on my new size large clothes as well as the shapewear to go to the game. My friend said it looked really good too. Size large here!!!

I shared some peanuts and water with them since I forgot to bring anything with me and I was starving. I am so very grateful that they were so sweet to share! My friends team ended up winning their championship game 14-4. I am so proud of her son!

I walked home and took off the clothes and just about collapsed into my bed. If it hadn’t been 7pm, I would have gone to bed right then. I decided to turn on Netflix.

The Clapper – I was SO happy to see Tracy Morgan!!! It was a very cute movie with a bunch of stars and comedians. It’s funny, sad, romantic, and sweet. I always like comedies and this one was different so I thought it was really good. Did I mention this is one of Tracy Morgan’s first movies since his car accident (Fist Fight was the first)?

My Perfect Romance – Oh my! Boss/employee love? I guess it happens. It’s about a CEO and a programmer that end up working together and falling in love. I’m not usually one for sappy movies. I watched this because Jodie Sweeten is in it. A small part but since I watched her grow up on Full House (Stephanie), heard about her drug use and how she has overcome it, and now in the new Fuller House series plus movies, I really like her.

Then I finally went to bed at 2am. I haven’t gotten out of bed yet this morning. No plans today really so I guess I don’t have to yet! I do need to go grocery shopping and cook but that’s it.

I hope everyone has a nice Sunday!

Saturday morning

I was woken up at 6am this morning after not going to sleep until 11. I wanted to sleep in. My mother seems to have other plans though because she has the royal wedding playing at top volume downstairs. I am happy for Harry, I don’t have to watch the wedding though. 🙄

I am not working this weekend. I just don’t feel like it. I worked hard this week so I am just going to relax. I lost 2.6 more pounds this week! I’m at 182.8. This keto diet is awesome! Why wasn’t I doing this when I was young???

I text my cousin last night because I saw his wife had posted on Snapchat that they were in Brazil. He didn’t look too excited walking around so I had to ask him. His response was that he was going on an hours sleep. Well yeah, that makes sense! The reason I mention this is because HE’S COMING TO VISIT!!!! I am so excited! He will be here the first weekend in June. His Dad lives here (my uncle) and my uncle has been sick lately so my cousin is coming. I get to reap the rewards though and see him too. Plus he wants to take me to see the Astros play the Red Sox while he’s here. Woo hoo! So I am planning on not dieting at least one day while he’s here.

You may remember my cousin from this post https://juliehcares.com/2017/11/16/sorry-😐/ because he’s the one I sold the condo with. So there’s a refresher for my friends that have been listening to me complain for months and new to others that I am happy to have with me!

I drove Styled and she got her hair done and then we went to the grocery store. She had me run all over the store to get her stuff while she went to the pharmacy. Oops, hang on. Hard to type with a cat pushing on your hands. He just nibbled on me so I need to kick him out of my room.

Anyway, where was I? So I got Styled home at noon and had to rush off to get Ms. Sick. I started getting texts from my friends asking about Santa Fe and emails from the school about lockdowns on my way to pick her up. I wanted to go pick up my son. When I picked this woman up, she had decided that not only would I take her to get her hair done, I would take her to lunch and grocery shopping as well. Not cool. I didn’t get her back home until 5:15!!! I really hope she’s better and can drive herself soon. That really upset me.

I was just about to pull up to my house after that when I got a call asking if I wanted to go to dinner. This is the other new client, Ms. Forgets, daughter. I hadn’t met her yet so I said sure. She told me to meet her at a Mexican restaurant not too far away and I happily went.

She had quesadillas and I had fajitas combination plate. I ordered my food with just the meat and a side of cheese, no beans, no rice, and no tortillas. I also had a margarita that didn’t taste great so I only had half. Ended up only 4 carbs! I did really well sticking to my plan! So that was my day.

I am not working today. I worked hard this week and want a day off so I am taking one. I wanted to go to the beach again this weekend but changed my mind when I saw all the road closures around town. Maybe I will just go to the park and walk the 3 mile trail instead. Who knows! Have a great weekend!!!

Such a horrible act

I’m still in shock over the 17 year old here in Santa Fe. It’s too close to home. My biological brother and his family were just living there a year ago so I’ve been there many times. It’s only 40 minutes from my house to his old place which was 2 miles from the high school there.

A small town of 13,000 people. A 17 year old that decided to steal his fathers weapons and use them against innocent children. What is going on with our youth???

I spoke with my son when we both got home today. He told me that he’s not stupid and knows what to do in case of a shooter. He said you don’t run through the school, you stop and hide the first place you find. What kills me is that the school doesn’t even have lockers and the classrooms walls are all glass so where is a kid supposed to hide?

I am not for gun control. If you stop following me for that, I understand. Gun control is not going to help anything. If somebody really wants a firearm, they will get it. There needs to be more background on buying weapons. I can walk into an Academy store right now and walk out with a rifle. Yes, rifles are harder to use since they need to be reloaded but, they can be used to shoot up a school too.

I’m off to bed, I just wanted y’all to know my feelings on this horrible thing that happened. I hope you sleep well (if you’re in America) and have a great day if you’re just waking up!