Old friends

So I met this guy in 6th grade. He picked on me and I had a crush on him. He moved in 7th grade. We kept in touch though.

Met up again in high school when he had surgery and I was invited to come visit and I was driving by then so I went. We became best friends. He always picked on me but I was overweight and felt the need for a friend so I just laughed it off.

Over the years, we stayed friends. We worked together in 2003, I got him in trouble (I do not remember how), and he didn’t speak to me for almost 3 years.

After my son was born and I was dealing with my ex, I reached out to him again because I was going through my divorce and really needed a friend and we got close again.

We would fight and not talk for a while but always became friends again.

Cut to my birthday 2 years ago in 2018. I was into a size large for the first time since junior high and invited him to join my son and his friend for a weekend at the beach.

Over that weekend, he made fun of my son and was angry and rude towards me when I fought for my child. After that, I did not speak to him again.

Today, he reached out to me. His original text:

I always have you on my mind and always wonder how you are doing. I miss you so much Julie. I do wish the very best for you.

Seems very nice, right? After dealing with years of him making fun of me and then turning his bullying towards my child, I am not interested in becoming friends again.

Don’t get me wrong, I was polite in my reply. I told him how we are and didn’t expect a reply as I was polite but not overly friendly. He replied with this LONG reply of his medical issues and his vehicle was totaled, etc etc.

So my reply to all that, I replied I’m sorry to hear all that and I hope things get better for you.

Okay! I do not want to talk to him. I have no love in my heart for someone who bullies a child. I hope he just leaves me alone.

That’s all. Just how I’m feeling right now. I am talking to BFF and even she agrees with me.

In happier times:

14 thoughts on “Old friends

  1. I agree with your decision too. Sounds like a healthy boundary to have this man “not” in your inner or out circle anymore –
    And you have tried many times in the past – the word toxic came to mind and
    The damage he leaves behind is too hard to heal and repair from.
    So you actually were cordial and classy by being kind in your reply – because you could have ignored it

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      1. Hi – not sure what you mean by safe – but if you are referring to the toxic people I have encountered – those boundaries have been in place for years.
        so yes. safe.
        thanks for checking
        — and wishing you a wonderful start to 2020 – I am going to be slowing down my blog mode for the next short term period of time – and wishing you a wonderful spring 2020

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